'The least Ben could have done was dance with his mother': Irate Karen makes a scene because her son won't dance with her at graduation

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Dec 7, 2022 2:00 PM EST

This mom clearly suffers from main character syndrome! She seems to think that her son's high school graduation was about getting the opportunity to do a mother-son dance, rather than letting her son be the center of attention for just one day. The worst part of the whole story is that all these years later, she has revealed unconsciously that no lessons have been learned.

This thread was posted to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit by u/AITAdancemom, who shared how distraught she was after her son had to literally hide from her in order to avoid that mother-son dance. What she doesn't seem to realize is that her energy is so overbearing that her son had to run and hide like he was a child. By the end of her anecdote, Mommie Dearest revealed that several years later, her son made an offhand comment about not wanting to get married because he doesn't want to deal with "dance drama" all over again. Rather than acknowledge where she may have gone wrong, Mommie Dearest decided to make it all about her…yet again.

Keep scrolling below for the full story and for the best comments. For more, check out this post about a needy mother-in-law.

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    World - ALICHAABHMÄ YHIBE TXAPHOSHX TEXHORT "AITA for making a scene when my son refused to dance with me?"
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    Font - AITA for making a scene when my son refused to dance with me? This all started when my son Ben graduated high school. There was a formal dance. I was very excited for the mother-son dance. Every time I brought it up, Ben would say he wasn't going to dance. I didn't take him seriously. I thought he was just being shy.
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    Font - When we got to the formal, everything was beautiful. But when it came time for the formal dances, he was nowhere to be seen. I approached my older daughter, Alice, and my husband, who I could see were talking and laughing. I asked if they'd seen Ben, and they laughed and said he was going to go hide so he didn't have to dance. I was absolutely heart broken. My son was literally hiding from me! I stood in the corner during the mother-son dance, watching all his friends dance with their mom
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    Font - When they got home, Ben walked right past me and went to his room to get ready for the after party. My daughter hugged me, and went to get ready, because she was driving Ben to the party. After our children left, my husband and I had an argument about what happened. He said he was appalled at my behaviour, and that I was acting like a child. I said that the least Ben could have done was dance with his mother. He said that today was supposed to be about him and his accomplishment, not me.
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    Font - I was taken aback by this, so I just stayed on the porch trying not to cry. I thought my husband would support me. Later, my daughter returns home and sees me crying. She gives me a hug and gave me a chocolate bar to try to cheer me up. If no one else, my daughter would be on my side. She danced with me at her graduation. She danced with her father. She understood how important this day was for me. I asked if she was on my side. She said something along the lines of "I know you're upset,
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    Font - It took a few days before we really spoke to each other again, and after a few weeks, everything went back to normal. Coming back to the present, my daughter recently got engaged. We were talking about it on a family facetime, and the topic of when Ben will get married came up. He said he was never going to get married, because he doesn't want to deal with another round of dance drama. When I asked him to clarify, he said that he was obviously referring to his graduation.
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    Font - I was appalled at this attack. He won't get married because of me? I won't lie, I am upset that he still does not want to dance with me, even at his own wedding. Now my husband is mad at me, my son refuses to answer my calls or texts. AITA for making a scene and starting an argument because my son never wants to dance with me? EDIT: Okay, it appears as though the response is pretty unanimous, and I have a lot of thinking to do.
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    Font - Leah-the Red 18 hr. ago YTA. when your child said "I don't want to dance." That should have been the end of the story. It sounds like you walk over his boundaries often and that was one of the first time's he spoke up to you about it. 10.1k Reply Share
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    Font - raviary 18 hr. ago S I was taken aback by this, so I just stayed on the porch trying not to cry. I thought my husband would support me. If no one else, my daughter would be on my side. I asked if she was on my side. I was appalled at this attack. YTA and this is not a healthy response to your kid setting a boundary that disappointed you. 6.5k Reply Share
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    Font - Defiant-Currency-518. 18 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] You're going to a very interesting mother-in- law. 4.5k Reply Share
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    Rectangle - amaralove123. 18 hr. ago Imagine her reaction if her son dances with his wife 2.3k Reply Share
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    Font - Helpful_Welcome974 1 . 17 hr. ago Imagine when she interrupts the honeymoon 4 985 Reply S
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    Font - Veilchengerd 18 hr. ago You forced your son to hide somewhere because he knew you would show no respect whatsoever for his boundaries. Years later, he cracks a joke about it, and you go into another huff? Of course, YTA. Why do you even need to ask? 3.6k Reply Share
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    Font - APlantNamed Earl 17 hr. ago I feel like everyone has covered why YTA to your son but I also feel sorry for your daughter who it seems feels obligated to comfort you and manage your emotions. That's not her job. 4 2.5k Reply Share
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    Font - OrangeCubit 18 hr. ago YTA - your son graduating high school has nothing to do with you, this is his event. He told you he didn't want to dance with you, and that should be enough for you. Why are trying to ruin what should be a fun and exciting time? Why are you making his milestones all about you? You are not the protagonist in this story. 1.8k Reply Share
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    Font - sallen779 18 hr. ago I love my Mom but I would have found such a scene to be embarrassing when I was a high school student, and I'd imagine most kids would too. It's not a wedding; it's a high school formal. Stop forcing your son to do things with you that he finds embarrassing or an invasion of his space. Major league YTA 1.1k Reply Share
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